The Perfect Opportunity

 

I must admit that I am guilty of being a “perfectionist”.  When I want to do something I want it done to the best of my ability.  This is not necessarily a bad trait.  Let’s face it, we are in a time where mediocrity is accepted as fashionable and status quo is nothing to argue about.  I talk to so many people who go to a job everyday to not give their best, but put in their time and collect a check twice a month.  I meet so many students who only do enough to get by in school (yes, that was me!).  The reality show boom has given many networks an excuse to slack off creative, thought provoking, and well-written shows.  Therefore, someone needs to stand up in the name of perfection, demand excellence, and fight for the best.  However the question stands, is the perfect opportunity worth pursuing?

As I have gotten older I have come to learn that perfectionism has it’s drawbacks.  First, it is time-consuming.  Many times when a person is striving for perfection it causes him/her to contribute so much to that “perfect one” that they may miss out on there opportunities.  A writer may go through draft after draft of an novel trying to capture the perfect arrangement of words.  An artist can exhaust canvases seeking the perfect piece of work.  A college graduate may pass up an opportunity of employment by holding out for the perfect job.  Time is one commodity we never gain back.  Also, perfectionism can cause someone to doubt their abilities.  Being under the impression that there is that “perfect opportunity” presumes that all other opportunities are unacceptable or second rate, and if that “one” is not attained then all is a failure.  I believe this is why many, namely artist, turn to vices, either to escape a sense of failing or for inspiration not to fail.  Another drawback of perfectionism is the pressure a person can put on themselves and others.  Perfectionists are usually some of the toughest people to be around.  We…I mean they…are tough to be around because perfection demands constant critique.  People, by nature, can only take so much criticism before they are repelled.  People want to be heralded for their efforts, even if it is not their best.

At the end of the day I believe perfection is something good to strive for because it always gives us something to reach towards.  I believe that it should be the standard by which we measure all that we do. However, it should never stop us from trying, taking a risk, or being afraid to fail.  As I recently heard author H.B. Charles say, “Start it now, perfect it later”.  I encourage you not to wait on the perfect opportunity, but rather, with all you have, pursue the next opportunity.

A Letter To My Son

Son,

I want you to know that you mean so much to me.  I thank God for the day you were born.  You absolutely have what it takes to succeed in life.  You are the man! Do not ever let anyone tell you differently.    You are also becoming a great man.  Understand something my son, the world will do everything it can to make you believe the opposite.  It will attempt to break down your manhood.  There are many who want you to see yourself as weak, passive, and unintelligent.  Stand strong.  Do not concern yourself with those types of ideas or people.  Know who you are, and more importantly, know whose you are and you will be just fine.

Dream big!  There is nothing attainable out of your reach.  However, it will require great sacrifice and hard work on your part.  “If a man does not work, he does not eat” is true.  You have been given gifts and abilities that are unparalleled.  Use them, not for selfish gain, but for the greater good of serving others.  If you consider others before yourself, then God will consider (and take care of) you.  Never forget that.

Love hard!  There will be many temptations that will entice over the years.  Be warned and be careful.  These traps are very luring and powerful.  They have ensnared many of men.  Do not be one of them.  Your purity is an asset. Do not cheaply give it away.  Rather, be patient and learn to love God and love others.  More so, learn what love truly is.  By doing this you will know what love truly is not.  However, when the time comes to love, love hard.  Love in a way that your love can never be questioned.  Love in a way that leads others to follow your example.  One caution to consider: never let your love for anyone come close to your love for God.  He deserves your best.  His love is so fulfilling that it will naturally overflow to other areas of your life.  Share that overflow with others for we all need it.

Represent Him!  To live is not enough.  You must live for Him. You will soon realize that this is not a popular position.  Even for those who claim to do so often edit and fall short.  Fight to stand for God.  Don’t wear God on your shoulder, but rather in your heart.  Learn His word and His ways and allow that to be your guide, compass, and protection throughout life.  Let your life be a blank canvas for Him, and you will be in awe of the masterpiece He creates. Make Him look good through your words, deeds, and thoughts.  For some, you will be the only God they may ever know.  Remember, that’s a privilege and honor.

I will not always be around to share my heart with you.  Therefore when I speak, listen.  Store these treasures in your heart.  Share them one day with your children. I cannot wait to see how your story unfolds.  I am so excited for you. I will always pray God’s blessings and favor over you. I love you so much my son.  I am proud to be your father.

With grace,

-Daddy